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ALANA: In today’s podcast we’re taking a deep dive into a lesson that when properly applied can help you do things like have more time and energy, give you a clearer sense of purpose and direction, make better use of your resources and live each day with greater joy, and confidence. It’s going to be a good one. We’re super excited about it you can apply it to your business, apply it to your relationships, apply it to your day, apply it to your year and even apply it to your entire life.
SIONE: Feel free to get a pen and paper to take some notes because we’re starting with life lesson number one, “Begin with the end in mind”.
SIONE: If you need to get a pen and paper, to take some notes because we’re starting with life lesson number one, begin with the end in mind.
ALANA: Dallin H. Oaks said quote, we make countless choices in life, some large and some seemingly small, looking back, we can see what a great difference some of our choices made in our lives. We make better choices and decisions, if we look at the alternatives and ponder where they will lead. End quote.
SIONE: This lesson is the perfect lesson to start this whole podcast.
ALANA: For those of you who may not know these lessons that we will be diving into each week come from a list of lessons that we started counting back in July of 2019. So these lessons are not new. They’re from our weekly video series counting life lessons with Sione on Alanna, which you can watch on our YouTube channel, Facebook page or website. So feel free to check them out. They are a lot of fun. But here’s the thing, the videos tend to focus more on what we are doing, and we never got to really dive into the life lessons itself. And that is the real inspiration behind this podcast, we now have a place where we can finally do just that. So while we don’t specifically choose these lessons for this podcast. It is so exciting for us to finally get a chance to really talk about why we love and chose those lessons in the first place. So we really are recounting these life lessons in more ways than one. Now that you know all of this, you can see why it’s pretty awesome that this just so happens to be life lesson number one.
SIONE: All right, so let’s get down into the nitty gritty.
ALANA: Here’s why I love this lesson. So beginning with the end in mind, gives our lives meaning direction and purpose. It also empowers us with a perspective that allows us to make decisions more confidently more quickly and unapologetically.
SIONE: So if you heard those reasons, rewind the tape podcasts, break those reasons down because those are the exact same reasons why I love this lesson, you know in Proverbs, 29, verse 18 in the good book it says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” When you begin with the end in mind you really have a clear picture of where you want to be, who you want to be, and you’ll at least have some path and direction, instead of just meandering through life.
ALANA: Now before anyone starts to feel overwhelmed if you don’t have a clear picture of how to get what you want. It’s very important to remember that there’s a huge difference between, beginning with the end in mind and knowing the end from the beginning. I just want to make that super clear the lesson is begin with the end in mind not begin with the beginning, middle, and end in mind.
ALANA: It’s knowing that you want to climb to the summit of a mountain without worrying about knowing how you’ll get there. What’s beautiful, but sometimes hard for some people to get past in order to unlock the true potential of this lesson is that to begin with the end in mind. You don’t need to know the how. And going back to my mountain analogy someone may miss out on the power of beginning with the end in mind if they never begin or even allow themselves to admit to themselves that they want to climb to the summit of a particular mountain. And the reason they never acknowledged this want that they have, is because they are so preoccupied with the fact that they don’t know what trail they need to take to get there, they don’t know the terrain of the trail. They don’t know how many bridges they’ll need to cross, or if there are multiple paths to get there. They allow what they don’t know, to prevent them from ever acknowledging what they actually want in the end. But I’m starting to get ahead of myself. It’s important to just point out that beginning with the end in mind takes a certain mindset, and it takes practice. We’re just hoping to help you get into that mindset during this discussion so you can really unlock the full potential of this lesson in your own life. So, Sione, when was the first time you learned about beginning with the end in mind.
SIONE: The first time I learned about beginning with the end in mind was actually listening on my iPod with the book from Stephen R Covey, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.
ALANA: I think the only difference between you and I, is that you learned it from the audio version of the book and I think I actually read the hardcopy. But begin with the end in mind is habit number two of those Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. In the book Stephen R. Covey begins teaching this habit by having the reader imagine their own funeral. And by imagining things from this perspective, the reader should be able to determine what relationships and legacies would be most important to them that they’d like to leave behind at the end of their lives. So while this was our initial exposure to this lesson, we’ve found that it isn’t only applicable to begin with the end of our lives in mind. We can begin January of 2020, for example, with the end of December 2020 in mind. We can begin designing a business with the lifestyle we’d like for ourselves in mind. We can begin a school year, with the kind of degree we’d like to have in mind, so those end points of the different things that we’re starting. You get the point.
SIONE: When I first read about this habit, my first thoughts were, of course, this makes sense. And why didn’t I learn this sooner. I’ve also learned that people do begin with the end in mind a lot, and even as a habit. But they’ve never had a label to it.
ALANA: And I know this isn’t the point of this discussion but the moment we put a label to something we are simultaneously giving it more power. The more we get into this lesson you may realize, “Hey I’ve actually have done this before.” And if you hadn’t labeled it yet, this label that we are now giving you will help you identify when you are doing it. And in turn, allow you to practice doing it intentionally. So sorry to jump in, I just felt that was important to point out. Go ahead.
SIONE: After I learned about this habit I realized that as an Iolani High School athlete, I would make it a habit to think about where I wanted to end up in regards to my skill level in the sports that I participated in. I would visualize what that looked like. But I never knew it was beginning with the end in mind.
ALANA: I’ve heard you mention a few times that you would actually watch NFL hits highlights to help you visualize the hits and the takedowns that you wanted to make while you’re playing football.
SIONE: Yep, that is correct every night before, Game Day. I’d be watching that 30 minute video, NFL Rocks, just watching
ALANA: Rewinding it on the VCR
SIONE: yes rewinding on the VCR pressing play and rewind.
ALANA: And I know the answer to this one but I’ll ask for our listeners. Did you ever actually want to become a professional athlete?
SIONE: Me personally I never did my actual end in mind I had a goal to start as a defensive back for junior varsity. So that was my end in mind. I’ve always been pretty small, my whole life and so I knew that that stature might make some kind of impact in where I’d play. So I set my sights on JV first string. So when I hit varsity first string I was ecstatic.
ALANA: You were all good
SIONE: I’m all good. Reached my goal.
ALANA: I think that brings up another good point, our picture of the end in mind that we create for ourselves is sometimes limited by what we know or believe to be possible. I know one of our favorite questions to ask people, when we’re getting to know them, or encourage them to dream is, “If time and money weren’t an issue, what would a typical day look like for you? Sky’s the limit.” And we always have to like prod them because it’s super interesting that so often, when we ask this question. A lot of people have a really hard time coming up, anything that they don’t already do until we continue to prod them. And it’s because they can’t get past eliminating the things that they want, but can’t see how it would be possible to actually have and do
SIONE: since putting this habit it’s a practice. I’ve also learned that you don’t need to know every detail of the how you will get to the end, you just need to have a clear picture of what the end looks like and the hows will actually present itself as you work towards that picture.
ALANA: If your dream business or career doesn’t exist. I’ve heard to just go create it. And it’s kind of funny but sometimes we think something doesn’t exist, or that it isn’t possible. But the moment we go to work, to actually make it happen we all of a sudden find that it really has been done before and we have those models to go and follow an extra evidence to reaffirm the fact that it is possible. I’ve actually noticed that the same could also be said about how not to get to the end goal. The more you work toward what you want, the more you’ll be able to recognize what things are actually a waste of your time or unnecessary. I’ve always known for example that I wanted to own my own business and work for myself. And after posting pictures of some of the paper flowers that I was making in my free time on Instagram a few years back I naturally fell into the decision of starting a handmade paper flower business. And as this business grew in both success and just responsibility it got clear and clear to me that while this particular business was helping me to achieve most of my end in mind goals and lifestyle. It was also conflicting in a few areas. So it helped me to recognize the things I liked and the things that I didn’t like. And I worked hard to create a new business, that would be able to help me get all of the things that I want, and it kind of showed me how not to go ahead and build a business, so to speak.
SIONE: So some of you know that I work as a juvenile detention officer and I have an awesome coworker who is also an artist, and by artists I mean he paints, he draws, just
SIONE: He might even do that I don’t know, he showed me a bunch of his art supplies, and some of the art pieces he’s working on, and he already had in mind what his completed art piece would look like and so he showed me, you know, once he completed it, he could tell because it felt like it was done. But he also showed me a piece where when he thought it was completed. I thought it looked awesome. And then he told me, you know, it just didn’t feel like it was done. So he redid it. And he like completely changed like half of the canvas to a whole different color, and even that looks awesome.
ALANA: Did it look similar to what
SIONE: it was different colors
ALANA: just different colors?
SIONE: Different color, different. It might have even been different texture stuff that he had on there. And I said well that looks great too. And he said, You know that first time it just didn’t speak to him and didn’t feel complete. It didn’t match with his end in mind. And so to me, you know, even though they both looked great, to my coworker, he already began with the end in mind and he knew when that art piece would actually be completed.
ALANA: I think that’s really neat to think about that when we think of the end in mind it’s not just about a picture. It’s also a feeling and a vibe as well. I get the same thing when I create things I never really have 100% clear picture of the details of what every single part of it will look like, but I do know what I want it to feel like. And I think that’s also why, even if two people have the same careers, their end in mind picture will show that they don’t actually want the same thing. And that’s totally okay
SIONE: Yeah and that’s that really goes to show that everyone has a different end in mind picture and feeling, even if they’re talking about the same thing. When it comes to relationships, it can be helpful for us to understand what another person’s end looks like in their mind, so that we can support them or protect them properly.
ALANA: You know I never actually thought about it that way. How it can be helpful to be aware of what someone else’s end in mind looked like in their mind. In their heads. But I can see how a couple could run into problems, over time, or trouble over time. if they find out that they have completely opposite ends in mind for their lives. In fact, in just recording this first episode. I did a bad job at explaining my end mind feel for how these podcast episodes would go, and it took us a lot of time to figure out the best way to outline what we were going to talk about and how we were going to talk about it until we stopped and paused to make sure that we both had the same end in mind picture that we were working with. And once we did that things just happened a lot more smoothly and quickly.
SIONE: You know, just to give you credit though. I think my end in mind, was that this podcast stuff was just going to be a breeze. And there’s a lot more to it so.
ALANA: And I think that’s how it is when we start anything brand new that we’ve never done before. We have assumptions going into it, and we have to be patient with ourselves and learn as we go. But having that clear picture of where we’re headed helps us get through those little hiccups and those bumps. So I agree wholeheartedly. Knowing what someone’s end in mind picture is can be super beneficial in relationships. But you did mention that it can also be helpful in protecting a person. What do you mean by that?
SIONE: Well I was just thinking, for example, we have a youth in detention was so determined to climb a fence wall, that was off limits, and he wanted to do it before he left the facility.
ALANA: Wait, how tall was this wall?
SIONE: So the fence was about two stories high.
ALANA: That’s pretty tall.
SIONE: It is. And a lot of staff had a great rapport with this youth in fact this particular youth also wanted to make sure that he didn’t disappoint staff during his last few days, so his end in mind consisted of climbing the fence wall, and not disappointing staff. Two very conflicting ends. So after staff talked with this youth enough he chose not to climb the fence wall which protected him, not only physically but I also believe emotionally. If he climbed the fence wall before he left and felt the disappointment from staff, he would have had another emotional traumatic experience to add to his already emotionally traumatic life.
ALANA: Hmmm, so it did. It protected him from those negative feelings in the end. So it would seem that those closest to us or at least those that have our best interests at heart could be helpful resources and helping us discover what we truly want for ourselves. Like in this case he had an idea but it was in talking it out that he discovered, which one was most important to him. And I like that, we don’t necessarily give the person, all the power to convince us or tell us what we want but we can listen, and we can talk with others to help us discover for ourselves, what we want. And that would definitely protect us from unnecessary pain.
SIONE: Yeah. here’s another example of beginning the other mind from my personal experience, beginning with the end in mind, is being a ninth grader, and knowing that from now on, every grade counts towards where you’re going to be going to college and so knowing that you want to be accepted to a specific college, like Brigham Young University because the chances of you getting married to someone with the same standards as you are more likely. And so you work backwards and you think about what you need to do to get there, you think about making sure you get good grades and making the Dean’s list, you think about how you’re going to use your free time after school or even during school. Beginning with the end in mind will help you make those daily decisions with purpose.
ALANA: Did you really think about all those things? Like the fact that how you spent your free time and everything would help or have an effect on which school you’d end up with and who you’d end up being able to marry?
SIONE: I knew that the free time would make a difference in my grades, and it actually has to be trial and error because I found out real quick, that if I didn’t use my free time I saw where my grades went. If I didn’t use my free time to study I saw when my grades went, and so I needed to recorrect my course of action so that I could end up where I wanted to end up. So I think the how kind of presented itself as I went through that but
ALANA: That’s cool but you were already thinking about that.
SIONE: I had to get into BYU. I had to get into BYU.
ALANA: Well, since you just shared how beginning with the end in mind led to you, finding me. We could also say that beginning with the end in mind is knowing the kind of marriage you’d like to have before you even ever start dating. That’s actually what I did. All those around me were daydreaming about their dream weddings. I was daydreaming about my dream marriage and the kind of relationship I would want to have with my future husband. And I credit a lot of the way our relationship in our marriage is to the fact that we both were beginning with the end in mind. And we had this picture of the kind of marriage, we would want to end up with.
ALANA: You know when I initially read about beginning with the end in mind, for some reason, I only applied it to relationships. And I didn’t pay much attention to the kind of work, I’d leave behind or the kind of lifestyle I wanted to live when I was picturing my funeral. I only imagined the kind of relationships I would have developed with those I knew, and the one I’d want to have developed with the Lord. And it’s interesting when I look at my relationships in comparison to where I am in other areas of my life. I can see just how evident, it is that I had an end in mind picture for my relationships for a lot longer than I have for my career and my health and my vocational pursuits, for example.
SIONE: So how long ago, do you think it was that you actually started paying attention to what you wanted your end in mind career or lifestyle, to look like
ALANA: I feel like I didn’t get as intentional about deciding what I wanted for my career and lifestyle end in mine to look like until a few years ago. And this was while I was building My Paperblooms Aplenty, my handmade paper flower business. I was more in an experimental kind of phase, to help me discover what it was that I ultimately wanted, up until then. And my understanding of applying this lesson as a whole in every area of my life, increased big time. After we decided, and started getting coaching from Bob Proctor. That’s when I actually started realizing that another way of understanding what it means to begin with the end in mind, is to get crystal clear on what you ultimately want your life to be and then to make all of your decisions with that picture as a filter in mind. For those of you listening who know us personally or have been following us for a while, you’ve probably actually seen some of these changes that have been taking place as a result of my focus and my recognition of this end in mind for my career and lifestyle.
SIONE: Yeah, you know, actually, there’s been a lot of talk in our discussions about what our end of mind, looked like, and how it would be when we wouldn’t be working traditional jobs, and we’d be helping people. And it’s really interesting to see how once you have that end in mind, there were parts before where you used to think, I don’t know, I’d have to do XYZ and we’ll get into that a little bit but we’d have to do this this this before we could probably do this or once you made like a decision, and you saw what the end in mind looked like you just started doing it, even if it’s little pieces like all the hows presented itself. So, I, me personally, can see how much more focused you are because that picture is a lot clearer, so it’s been pretty neat to see just the vast amount of progress you’ve been making towards this goal.
ALANA: Yeah it’s really, it’s weird because it’s, I feel it too. I can tell there’s just so much more intention. Here’s how examples of these changes that we’ve been making. With a clear end in mind picture of the kind of business and impact we wanted to have this resulted in a change in the way we were making YouTube videos. I stopped going at it alone and we started doing it together. A clear end in mind picture of the kind of lifestyle we want to have resulted in me closing my paper flower business. Even though it was making more money than I ever anticipated it would, and it was still growing. And a lot of people were really confused as to why I stopped, but just knowing what I wanted in the end, made making this decision the best decision for us. A clear end in mind picture of the kind of lifestyle we want to have is also why we’ve been doing so many fun hikes and things in our videos. So my favorite benefit of more intentionally, beginning with the end in mind is that we’ve stopped saying, we’ll do x once y is completed, or we’ll do y as soon as we finish x. And it’s had such a positive effect on our perspective that, like you mentioned, we now see how, how we can start doing and experiencing and living our end in mind life today, even though it’s sometimes on a smaller scale.
SIONE: Yes, at times, it will start on a smaller scale. Please, we are not advocating to go into debt spend a whole bunch of money or time that is not necessary just to reach your dream lifestyle today.
ALANA: Yeah, because even on a smaller scale, when it comes down to the details of the ultimate end mind picture, the feelings of what we feel when we’re doing them are the same. And that’s what is so insane. Beginning to live as closely to our end in mind lifestyle today has allowed us to stop thinking about this end in mind dream life as some far off future event that isn’t actually getting any closer or nearer. So while we may not have currently had the time or money to travel and have new experiences around the world every few months just yet. We can look for similar types of experiences to do on our days off nearby. And so while we haven’t made it to Stonehenge in England, we have made it out and discovered that there’s a Stonehenge replica right here in Washington. And going through the emotions and motions of living our end in mind dream life–it’s opened up our eyes to even more ways to make our ultimate want a reality even sooner. Way sooner in fact, then, when we were still saying, well, we’ll start x once we completely.
SIONE: That’s, the hows really do start showing up when we begin living with the end in mind
ALANA: When it comes to having the experiences or exploring it’s actually gotten to a point where we have so many recommendations coming to us, it’s not just like, oh, you’ll just notice them, they’re coming to us in our inboxes from people sending us messages from people just bringing it up conversationally that we have so many recommendations that we have an entire whiteboard, full of post it notes of things to do, that are not even more than 10 hours of a drive away to experience.
SIONE: Props to my co workers and our friends from church,
ALANA: and our followers who send us messages,
SIONE: always giving us ideas of new adventures and new places to go visit and see and we absolutely love it.
ALANA: And we really do! We feel like we’re experiencing it, those same emotions as if we were traveling to a place that is out of the country that we’ve never been to because we’re having a brand new experience, we’re experiencing a brand new thing. And it’s just really neat. So there’s that moment when we decided to let people know what it is we wanted our end, mind picture to look like, and all of a sudden, they started supporting us with that. Like, like mentioned that just, they started telling us where we could go and how we could actually have those things. And I believe that most people have good intentions. And so when they give us ideas and things of suggestions of what we should want to do. I don’t think for the most part, that people give those suggestions because they’re trying to control your life, for the most part they’re giving those suggestions because they actually think they’re helping and helping you decide what you want for yourself. There’s an Australian nurse that I recently read about and her name is Bonnie Ware. She took care of people during the last weeks of their lives and she started recording her patients deathbed regrets. And here’s what I found most interesting, the top most recorded regret was, I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life, others expected of me. So living with the end in mind requires courage, and a knowledge of what we want.
SIONE: You know there are a lot of times when individuals are raised with family values and expectations that almost direct that person’s life. We hear countless stories of people going to college pursuing a certain degree because they’ve been told to get a good paying job, but they end up not even using their degree because they find out that they actually do not have much interest in that curriculum.
ALANA: Yes, I think we all know a handful of people who are in careers that they hate, but they just stick with it because of the time that was already invested or the fear of what would happen if they took the time to discover what they actually want or decided to pursue what they actually want. But according to nurse Ware, that may lead, ultimately, to an end of regret.
SIONE: Yeah one of the best pieces of advice I got from one of my Auntie’s at church. And this was Auntie Leanne. She said, Sione when you go to college, just take some classes that you might find interesting. She mentioned to me that sometimes people think that they know what they want to do by the time they get to college. But a lot of times people go to college, not knowing exactly what they want to do, they don’t have that clear picture. so find something, you will actually love doing.
ALANA: Wait, so what, what kind of classes, did you take for fun?
SIONE: So I took for fun I took American Sign Language, because I thought that would be kind of cool to check that out. I grew up in a, in a word congregation that had a deaf group. And so we got to see some sign language every week but I thought, why not learn for a semester? Why not? So I did I took that class.
ALANA: Was there any classes that you took it was like wow I didn’t realize I really like something
SIONE: That was yeah American Sign Language, ASL was pretty awesome. I mean, it’s a different experience and it was fun. To this day, I’ll still use my language when I can. Whatever I know of language.
ALANA: This is true.
SIONE: And when we begin with this end in mind to design this dream life of ours, getting crystal clear on as many of the details as possible will raise the likelihood of making those things a reality.
ALANA: And so I can see why Stephen R. Covey labels this lesson as not just a lesson but a habit, because as we go through experiences. I think our picture of the end gets clearer and clearer, but also can you imagine what it’d be like if we only began with the end in mind, let’s say every January.
SIONE: Oh, I think we all know what that looks like. How many of us began with the end in mind when we set a new year’s resolution or goal? We have something we want to achieve. And we want to, you know, we have a clear picture of what we want things to look like and we do it in the beginning of the year or, you know, the last week of the previous year. Then we don’t make it a habit, each month thereafter and our new year’s resolution or goal, just becomes a memory or one of those, It was a good idea at the time, kind of thing.
ALANA: So definitely why it would need to be a habit that you need to keep practicing and keep that end in mind, not just in January, but in February and in March and in April, keep remembering and keeping that end in mind. Making a habit of beginning each day with the end in mind would give meaning and direction to each of the choices we make and ultimately that would give our whole lives more meaning and direction. We’d no longer do things, just because everyone else is or because we were told to or to kill time. There’d be an actual reason for it. You know, I know some people, bless their heart, they have all the good intentions, but they don’t know what they want and it’s really obvious because all they do is ask everyone else what they want to do, or what they want to eat, and they just go along with that. And so they’re letting everybody else’s wants dictate their life. And it is it’s kind of sad when you think about it that way. While we’re on the topic of goals and resolutions. I’m always curious as to how and why we often pick these specific goals for ourselves. This year because I knew we’d be recording this podcast soon. I had the lesson of beginning with the end in mind, at the forefront of my mind. And towards the end of December as I was reflecting and kind of looking back at what happened in the past year, I saw the things that were really cool that we were able to do and accomplish and I felt the regret of the things that we put off, and I thought, oh my goodness, what would happen if we actually set goals and resolutions with that feeling of what we want at the end of the year, while we’re reflecting back to be like, and we have that in mind. Asking ourselves questions like, will we look back and see amazing new memories or accomplishments. Will we finally have gotten into the shape we’ve been wanting to get into. We have gotten any closer to the goal that we keep putting off. Or will the last 365 days, pretty much be the same as the year before? Take that same concept and work backwards in breaking down goals. Get a clear picture of what the end of the quarter will look like or the end of the month, or the end of the week, or the end of the day, then begin and make your decisions with those ends in mind.
SIONE: So we talked about how beginning with the end in mind gives us more meaning and direction. Now let’s talk about this. How does beginning with the end in mind free up time and energy?
ALANA: Well for me, beginning with the end in mind saves me time and money and energy because it allows me to make wiser decisions, and to make them more quickly. I just asked myself, will this help me get closer or farther to what I want, as my end. If it’s going to get me closer, I say yes to it. If it’s going to take me farther away I say no. And if it doesn’t really have any effect, but it’s something that I think might be nice to test out and I’m kind of curious about if I’d like it or not, I’ll participate, until I can determine if it’s taking me further or closer from my desired end. This is also where I think the word beginning is important to think about when we begin with the end in mind, we don’t start something without first, thinking about where that actually will lead.
SIONE: So just personal experience on time and energy. This year, we are involved in a different eating habit.
ALANA: We’re doing it a little differently because we’re just eating to survive right now.
SIONE: Yeah. And, you know, so we used to, I mean I don’t know, you guys probably have gone through this type of situation where you might be with your spouse or friend. And you say, Hey, where do you want to eat?
ALANA: I don’t know, where do you want to eat?
SIONE: I’ll let you choose like no, what do you want to eat, and you spend probably 10 to 15, 20 minutes, just trying to figure out where you want to eat.
ALANA: And we’ve even developed a system to try and make this more effective, but it still takes time.
SIONE: Right, I would be the one just naming off places. And Alana would just
ALANA: Through process of elimination I’d say no that doesn’t feel good.
SIONE: So now, we actually just get healthy choice steamer meals, and there are so many, there’s a variety of them and so we just pick out the ones we need for the week.
ALANA: grab some extra vegetables and fruits to eat on the side
SIONE: And we got our shakes and, and that’s it. So, when we go to the store. We pretty much just go to like two aisles, and we’re out of there.
ALANA: 30 minutes max.
SIONE: Maybe if that
ALANA: if there’s a line,
SIONE: If there’s a line. No, if there’s only one checkout stand. So, so as far as I think Alana, you actually calculated how much time do we actually save now?
ALANA: I did I calculated this, and it’s saving us two to five hours a day, not a week, a day, because we’re in this stage of our life right now where our goals have us very busy. It’s requiring us to be at certain places or do certain things where cooking has taken a backseat so as much as I love to cook and we love eating home cooked meals and we’ll probably go back to that eventually. Right now, the amount of time it would take to shop for the food, plan for the food, decide what we’re going to eat, prep the food, cook the food, sit down and eat the food, or decide we’re too busy because we have a project that we’re working on or a meeting that came up that we need to leave, and we didn’t have time to cook the food, prepare the food, and eat the food. So we ended up deciding Oh Are we going to eat, and having to go out to eat and taking the time to go order the food and, you know, the whole drill. It’s actually cut down on the amount of time that we spend worrying about food and eating food by two to five hours every single day.
SIONE: A day! Did you hear that? That’s just crazy to think that Sione and Alana spends two to five hours a day thinking about food or making food or going out to get food. But as you’ll see if you haven’t already. We love food.
ALANA: Yeah, we do
SIONE: as part of our life.
ALANA: And so this is a way where we found something that we love. We made it work. And for now, our decisions are made for it, because we began with the end in mind we knew we wanted to pick food that was going to help us with our health goals, and these work. And so yeah, big time, money and energy saver. For an example of beginning without the end in mind can you imagine how much time and energy a person would waste, if they began a climbing up random sets of stairs in a city full of buildings, without keeping in mind, if it would actually end up where they wanted to go. I mean, maybe they knew exactly where they wanted to end up, but they ignored that fact, whenever they found a set of stairs and they just started climbing, they just began climbing because Oh look it’s set of stairs. It would be leaving things up to chance. And there would be a total lack of intention for their climbing those steps. It would just be climbing to climb and, you know, when I was thinking about it, it’s kind of laughable. And it’s easy to laugh about that example but how easy is it for us to go about living our lives in the same way. Do we ever begin a career or relationship without keeping the end in mind, and look back years later, wondering, wait a minute, how did I get here.
SIONE: Yes, so don’t just begin with the end in mind. Live with the end in mind.
ALANA: Life can be an amazing teacher
SIONE: if we’re paying attention,
ALANA: the opportunities for learning and growth are infinite
SIONE: just like each of our potentials,
ALANA: but its potential is only as powerful as its application.
SIONE: So here’s one last thing before we go. Here are a few ideas that you can take to apply this lesson.
ALANA: One, take the time to get clear about what you want yes it’s going to take time, but take that time, figure out what your end in mind picture looks like, not just for your relationships like I did, but for your career for your lifestyle for your health, or your spirituality, take the time to get clear about what your end in mind picture is.
SIONE: Two, say no to things that don’t line up with what you want for yourself in the end. And don’t apologize when you do, because when you say no to those things, you are simultaneously also saying yes to your dreams. Did you know that Richard Branson said no to a half a million dollars for a speaking event. Just because that didn’t fall in alignment with what he had in the end with his end in mind.
ALANA: So cool. And on that same note start filling your time with more of the things that will help you get what you ultimately want. Say yes to more of those things go look for those things.
SIONE: This has been a lot of fun. If you got something from this episode we would love to hear about it. Come, let us know on our last Instagram @sioneandalana, or Facebook post at facebook.com/sioneandalana
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